Today I re-read an email I had sent to a friend, and a statement in it resonated within me, “… you know I will fully accept and respect …”. I was struck by how two words that wholeheartedly embraced such positive actions could be so closely related to a word that most often holds such a negative reaction:
will·ful Adjective /’wilfəl/
- adjective: wilful, headstrong, self-willed, obstinate, deliberate, intentional, wayward, stubborn, opinionated, voluntary
1. (of an immoral or illegal act or omission) Intentional; deliberate
* willful acts of damage
2. Having or showing a stubborn and determined intention to do as one wants, regardless of the consequences or effects
* the pettish, willful side of him
And that thought led me back to my own quote, “Words have the power to put thoughts into actions. Choose yours carefully.” I have been ‘preaching’ this for as long as I can remember. (The practicing part’s coming along much better now than at any other time in my life I am happy to report. 😉 )
Why is our will so much more important than that of anyone else’s? Must we win every argument with our significant other? Cut-off that car in traffic – or “sneak” 30 items in a 15-item limit lane? Tell our children “because I said so” simply because of our “birthright” as their parents? And in this age of instantaneous everything, must we always have what we want when we want it – let the consequences be damned?
Where is compassion? Where is taking a time-out of the good sort? Where is helping-out someone without contemplating who is watching? Where is puddle-jumping in your business clothes (with or without the kids)? Where is gratitude for the ability to be grateful? Where is hope?
I am thinking on these things in my own life. I’d like to know how you are thinking about them in yours. How are you willful? And how are you living “will fully?”
Yours in Service,